Keeping the Peace in a Child Care Center: 3 Ways to Stop Aggressive Behavior in Kids

An aggressive child can leave you at your wits’ end, especially if you provide childcare. It’s your responsibility to protect all the children in your care. If you have one child that’s bullying the rest, it can damage your reputation and upset the other parents. Here are a few tips for calming those aggressive tendencies so you can bring peace back to the masses.

Avoid Negative Reinforcement

As soon as you notice the aggressive behavior, you need to step in and separate the children that are involved. It’s important that you avoid negative reinforcement, though. Remove the child that is acting out but try to avoid excess communication.

For instance, when separating a child that has been pushing children, simply say “we don’t push.” Sit the child down and then tend to the child who has been pushed. The aggressive child should see that the injured child receives attention first. Once you’ve tended to the injured child, you can go and sit down with the aggressive child.

Go Somewhere Quiet

Once you’ve calmed the injured child, take the time to calmly talk to the offending child. Try to go somewhere quiet when you speak to the child. This will allow you to speak to the child without the embarrassment of having other children listening.

While you’re speaking to the child, let them know what was wrong about their behavior. Use this time to expand on the “we don’t push” comment. This will help the child understand what was improper about their behavior.

Use Modeling

You know how you want the children you care for to behave. Spend a few minutes teaching them about proper behavior. Don’t assume that your children know they shouldn’t bite, pinch, or push. Instead, take the time to explain the behaviors you won’t accept and why you won’t accept them.

Once you’ve explained the rules about behavior, use modeling as a way to teach the children. For instance, if you see children playing well together, point it out to the other children. You might say “kids, look at how well Bobby and Sue are playing together.” Or, if you notice a child’s behavior is improving, you might say, “Cindy, thank you for not pushing when you were upset.” Pointing out positive behavior will show the children that they receive recognition when they act appropriately.

It’s normal for young children to act out from time to time. However, when the behaviors get out of control, it’s important that you do your best to remedy the situation. These tips can help you stop improper behavior before it becomes a problem. If you’d like further information about childcare, consider speaking with a representative from Miniapple International Montessori School.

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